Relationships
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XXVI. Understanding Attachment Styles
Disclaimer:I’m not a psychologist, therapist, or expert in attachment theory. I’m just a man who’s spent years exploring this space—through reading, conversation, and lived experience. This entry isn’t advice, it’s simply a reflection on what I’ve learned and how it’s helped me grow. Take what resonates, and leave the rest. Attachment styles are something I’ve…
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XXV. The Divine Feminine
There are moments in life that strip you bare—legally, emotionally, spiritually. Sitting in a mediation room, trying to advocate for your child while staying composed, is one of them. And yet, I wasn’t alone. Not in the physical sense, but emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. Because months after we parted ways, she was still quietly in…
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XX. Instant Gratification Culture
Instant gratification has crept into our lives in ways we rarely question. Have the devices we cling to reshaped not only our daily habits—but also how we relate, succeed, and feel fulfilled? Has the very chemistry of our brains shifted how we evaluate relationships, measure success, and chase purpose? The doom scroll. I’m guilty of…
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XVII. Parallel Parenting
Parallel parenting. A concept I came across when I was researching how to co-parent with a narcissist. Unfamiliar with the term, I delved into it, and found so many resemblances between it and my own situation—I soon realised that I am living in a parallel parenting dynamic myself. So what better topic to share with…
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XV. What Happens After a Breakup?
Where endings become beginnings Across my years, I’ve had many relationships end for various reasons. Some were my own doing. Some were not. Each one impacted me differently. People often say that every failed relationship leaves you with a lesson to learn. I prefer to see them as opportunities—each one offered me a new mirror,…
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XIV. The 2-2-2-1 Rule
A simple practice to deepen connection I stumbled across the 2-2-2-1 rule while reading someone’s Bumble bio a while back. And I’ll be honest — I nearly scrolled right past it. Another catchy life-hack? Probably. I swiped left. But something about it stuck—it wasn’t your generic “..Get me off this app..” or “..You deserve good…
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X. Less is More: The Paradox of Modern Society
“Everything is amazing right now, and nobody’s happy.” — Louis C.K. Welcome to another entry of The Integrated Masculine. Today, we’re diving into the paradox of modern society—why those with less often live more satisfied lives. I live in one of the wealthiest countries in the world. The average Australian income is now around $100,016…
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VII. Navigating the Co-Parenting Maze
A foreword from TIMM I’ve read this entry multiple times. What began as advice on co-parenting gradually became a personal reflection—my journey laid bare, with lessons woven throughout. At times, I may come across as bitter. Some might say rightfully so. But I recognise that every situation is unique, and many have it far worse…
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